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There are many. It’s conditional. We equate love (receiving it more than giving it, but sometimes that too) with an absurd non-mathematical equation: If I do this, I’ll be loved. If I don’t do that, I won’t. It’s illusory. The premise that perfectionism is built on is faulty. That is; there’s something fundamentally wrong with us that needsRead more

What to do When You Feel “Stuck” in Life I’m stuck. No you’re not. You don’t understand. I’m really stuck. What makes it seem like you’re stuck is your insistence that you are. It’s true we travel through different phases in life ”“ some that seem to last a very long time, and others thatRead more

When you assume you make an ass out of you and me. Why? Because assumptions aren’t based in fact. But we love to make them because they pull us out of the present moment and send us speeding into a projected future that distracts us from now. We’re so familiar with letting our mind runRead more

You gain thirty pounds. Your essential nature is the same. You get dumped. Your essential nature is the same. You turn 30. Your essential nature is the same. Your agent drops you. Your essential nature is the same. Your essential nature – who it is that we all are – transcends our age, social status,Read more

“The grass is greener syndrome.” If you suffer from it, it’s yet another way of postponing your life. Putting the things you desire on the back burner. When we covet another person’s journey, we think if only we had what they had our life would be more fun. Or more exciting. Or more magical. YourRead more

We live in the world of action. No doubt about it. If you have great intentions but sit around on your couch all day eating Trader Joe’s Pirate’s Booty and watch 70’s sitcom reruns, it ain’t gonna happen. Doing means converting possibility into actuality. But what gives rise to possibility? Possibilities are born in aRead more

Astrophysicist, Adam Frank, interviewed on NPR says that the “experience of time throughout history is an invention. It is neither God-given nor physics-given.” It is a social construct that is built by a particular culture for political, economic or religious reasons. Buddhists talk about dying to the past and that the future hasn’t yet beenRead more

Ever notice that once you really start committing to something, it almost seems as if everything in the universe is conspiring against you to make that thing happen? Eeeeeeek! A lot of times, people stop. They give up. They see it as a “sign” that it’s not the right time. Or it’s not supposed toRead more

When I was a kid growing up in Indiana, I’d spend my summers collecting live bugs. There were acres of woods behind my house and empty fields full of more insects than you could imagine. Much to my mom’s disapproval, I’d grab empty canning jars from our basement, poke holes in the lids and goRead more

The experiences we are looking for in the world seem to show up out there. They might be in the form of getting a girlfriend or booking a job or going on a cruise or getting an agent. But what they really represent is the feeling you are looking for (and actually already possess) insideRead more